How to Make a Relationship Last: One Rule I Learned

How to make a relationship last? The One Rule I’ve Learned in 23 Years of Dating

Love is a complicated matter. normalize it or find something “Golden Rules” To make it work is valid for everyone, it is like expecting to always have high and firm breasts. This is pure illusion.

And this is certainly not what I would like to do with this article. How to make a relationship last forever? and who knows,

I’ve tried looking through the literature, looking for answers, but I can tell you it doesn’t help us at all. let’s consider greatest love story, Romeo and Juliet.

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The most fiery and heartwarming teen love story we know only lasts 5 days, Well yes, 5 days relationship. Of course, the sad ending didn’t help the two young lovers. But in just 5 days I believe the passion was through the roof.

How can we make a relationship last a little longer than Shakespeare’s 5 days? there is no right answer, and distrust all those who want you to believe that they have it. Relationships are so complex and nuanced that it is utopian to model them and mathematically predict the future.

I have been married for 23 years. And no, I don’t know how to make love last forever, But I have learned a thing or two about managing a relationship. In my opinion it is very useful to keep in mind and apply one in particular. And let me tell you a story to explain it,

I was in high school and that chaste Barbara lady, a beautiful girl with platinum-blonde hair and very blue ice-colored eyes, was my Greek and Latin tutor, for whom I was definitely in one of the more demanding classical high schools. I am grateful for my existence. School from Milan.

Returning to Barbara, she had recently become a teacher and taught me, who knows why, an outline of a topic she had given to her students. In this subject he quoted a portion of a poem by Khalil Gibrantaken from the book the Prophet, I report it to you in full. It said as follows:

,Then Almitra again asked: What do you think about marriage, Master?

And he replied:

You were born together and you will always be together.

You will be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.

Yes, you will also be with the silent memory of God.

But let there be space in your solidarity.

And the winds of heaven dance between you.

Love each other, but do not make love a bond: but let there be a moving sea between the shores of your soul.

Fill each other’s cup, but don’t drink from the same cup.

Give one to another from your bread, but do not eat from the same bread.

Sing and dance and be merry together, but let each of you be alone,

There are strings of the veena alone, though they vibrate with the same music.

Give your heart, but not to keep each other.

Because only the hand of life can hold your heart.

and hold each other together, but don’t stand too close.

Because the pillars of the temple are placed at a certain distance,

And oaks and cypresses do not grow in each other’s shade,

Of course, it seemed like a great poem when I read it as a teenager, but I didn’t fully understand its meaning.

I have been married for 23 years. no more, It’s not all roses and flowers, The love of the early years is never the same after so many years. Love changes. It develops into something different, which is no longer Romeo and Juliet’s 5 days of passion. But that doesn’t make it any less intense.

Growing up with one person is such an important part of life to share a privilegeWhich I don’t think would have been possible if Khalil Gibran’s poem had not come back to me: “Let Your Togetherness Have Space”,

If there’s one thing I’ve learned in 23 years of relationship, it’s this Everyone should have their own space to make love last. You don’t necessarily have to do everything at once. You don’t have to organize an entire day to always be together. You don’t always have to force yourself to like what other people like, just be together. We should meet, of course, but never cancel for the other person, Sing, dance and be merry together, “but let each of you be alone”.

The strings of the veena have to be close together to play the same chord, they are necessary to each other, but they should not be close together, otherwise they will not play harmoniously. The pillars of the temple are strong together, they have only one goal, hold a house together, but to do so they have to respect a certain distance from each other. “Give your heart, but not theirs to keep”.

The practice I’ve been trying to do for 23 years is this: You have to feel good without each other in order to feel good together, I know, it sounds like a contradiction, but think about it: You must first feel comfortable alone with yourself, so that you can find yourself in greater harmony with others. I believe it is necessary in couples Create your own personal space

, If your partner loves canoeing but you’re afraid of the water, don’t force yourself to go canoeing just because you’ll be spending the weekend apart. Take it apart Each of you also develops your passions on your own, without imposing them on the other and without imposing them on yourself.

someone tell me it’s important to find commonalities, To do things together. Of course, I think so too. But not forcefully and not always. And from a healthy distance within the couple that can enjoy spending time together, If you’re always together, if you do everything together, every day, every weekend, how can you imagine continuing this for 23 years?

There Are No Rules For Making A Relationship Last, But I Try To Remember His Lessons the Prophet Every day: “Don’t drink from a cup”. Fill them together. But grab your personal cup,

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