“I Have Big Sister Syndrome: This Is Why I Understand Kourtney Kardashian”

“I know about Big Sister Syndrome. That’s why Kourtney Kardashian finally made me feel understood.”

part of the enduring charm of “Stubborn” Kardashian This is illustrated by its ability to be both curiously familiar and decidedly unrecognizable. For more than 16 years we’ve been attracted to the comforts of the clan, in part because, more often than not, the latter reflect on our experiences,

Observing the raw dynamics of an extended family, even with the proper pressures of wealth and status, undoubtedly makes an impact. make the audience feel better About your family situation. Significantly, the first two seasons of kardashianNew reality show (it’s the sequel) dedicated to America’s most famous family. keeping up with the Kardashianswhich aired from 2007 to 2021), has thus been criticized for abandoning dynastic dramaSo much so that the third has seen a decisive return.

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war in the kardashian house

really focused on the new episodes The feud between Kourtney and Kim KardashianIn connection with the collaboration with Dolce & Gabbana, respectively, the eldest and second daughter. Kourtney accuses Kim of cheating on her part “Wedding Experience” The maison’s Spring Summer 2023 show has been curated a few months after her wedding in Portofino in May 2022, under the stylistic auspices of the Italian designer couple, who have also made their residence available at the site, Villa Olivetafor the function.

In a recent episode, Kourtney tearfully declared that, in their family, “nobody has a sense of boundaries” and accused Kim of putting her “check” before their sister bond. Most of us may find the idea of ​​even a family war

For proximity to a fashion house, but the underlying emotion stemming from Kourtney’s desperation has tugged at the inner strings of big sisters around the world.

Duty to lead by example (and show the way)

“What else can you take away from me?” He asked rhetorical question during one of Courtney’s “confessions”. “Am I allowed to keep something that is exclusively mine?” His words took me back to when I was fourteen and learned that My little sister After spending years identifying herself as the “rider” of the family, she wanted to pursue horse riding. At the time, it felt like a genuine act of aggression, an invasion of my territory, as well as a soothing reminder that my role as big sister was Share, act as a guide, act as a guide,

In my case, the complaint lasted about two weeks, until my sister’s horse racing career, but “Big Daughter Complex” It’s something that’s been with me since the age of four. The awareness of “setting a good example” to my younger siblings meant that the development of my identity was determined by responsibility To be an ideal, something that cannot be understood by those who have not lived this experience.

intolerable vagrancy of minor children

Responsible behavior calls for older children to allow younger siblings to live a carefree life that first-borns can only dream about. They get the benefit of observing, learning and learning First born babies go into uncharted territory, they are waiting behind for the moment when they can take turns to hit the ground running and perhaps perform better, taking advantage of the path already paved by those who have gone before them. Add to this the typical competitive dynamics between siblings competing for parental approval, and you have the recipe for the perfect storm.

A role that does not provide for retirement

Courtney later highlighted the all-encompassing nature of the big sister role in the confessional, saying, “I feel like I need to build my own identity, my own life, if I want to survive.” The job that you do not choose and which, moreover, does not provide for retirement, becomes the older sister. affect all options

Whoever does this. Older daughters usually leave home late, share more in household chores, and are safer in career choices. Younger siblings, on the other hand, unconstrained by expectations, are rebellious and creative and are 50 percent more likely to start their own businesses.

vent session

Being the eldest daughter can have such a profound effect in terms of stress that it has been baptized by the Internet as “older sister syndrome”, and it is only on the Net that eldest daughters have been able to find comfort by sharing their There are experiences. In 2018, Yasin Bojang co-founded Home Girls Unite, a support group for older daughters of immigrant families, aimed to address this situation through social meetings, therapy, and “vent sessions”. “Many older daughters have experienced firsthand how their role begins to intrude into every area of ​​their lives,” says Yasin, who has had to deal with many of her younger brothers and sisters for long periods of time. But it’s no wonder Kourtney’s position seeks to keep something as personal as marriage sacred. He added, “Kourtney has probably reached a point in her life where she wants to live for herself, which her family may not be ready to accept.”

The “Thank You” That No One Says

Kim’s sarcastic but sharp response – “Bitch, do you think I need your permission?” – Kourtney coping with grief over the Dolce & Gabbana deal exemplifies this lack of identity Which many older sisters are used to dealing with. OK, in this case we don’t have any specific hobbies or personality traits, or favorite designers, but a simple confession that we’ve laid the groundwork for you, little brothers and sisters, to do whatever you want. . Fairies would be highly appreciated. Parents should also be more willing to acknowledge the unfairness inherent in sharing everything, even our most sacred possessions. They are rarely able to resolve it, but they can still tell us that they feel it.

in conclusion

Life as a firstborn is not a sentence. Rank has its advantages, too: Studies have shown that older sisters are 16 percent more likely to excel than younger siblings, and if Beyoncé, Oprah and Angela Merkel can be considered relevant examples., the prospects don’t look as dire. But the fact is that being an older sister is a thankless job and unlike motherhood, an unwanted job. I don’t know if it’s really Big Sister Syndrome that affects Kourtney Kardashian. But, in speaking publicly about the shortcomings of her position, this ultra-privileged (and envious) daughter of the star system of the digital age may have inadvertently made millions of women and girls around the world realize that finally someone figured it out,

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This article was originally published on British Vogue.