“It was a morning in July that started as ordinary as any other day: I make breakfast. I feed the dogs. I take vitamins. I find the missing sock. I take the rebellious pencil that rolled under the table. I put my hair in a ponytail before taking my son out of his crib ”, he began by recounting Meghan Markle about the morning she suffered a miscarriage of the baby she was expecting with her husband, the prince harry.
The Duchess of Sussex has revealed this traumatic event that happened during the summer in a sincere letter published in The New York Times. “After changing her diaper, I felt a strong cramp. I dropped to the floor with him in my arms, humming a lullaby to keep us both calm, the happy tune in contrast to my feeling that something was wrong. I knew, while hugging my first-born, that I was losing the second, ”he revealed after months of secrecy about the abortion, as the couple did not announce this second pregnancy.
“I knew, while hugging my firstborn, that I was losing the second”
In Meghan’s extensive letter to the newspaper, the former actress relates that “hours later, I was lying on a hospital bed, holding my husband’s hand. I felt the moisture on her palm and kissed her knuckles, wet with our tears. Staring at the cool white walls, my eyes glazed over. I tried to imagine how we would heal ”.
That’s when he remembered a time last year when they were wrapping up their South African tour. She “was exhausted” as she was “breastfeeding our young son” but tried to keep a brave face in the eyes of the public. “‘Are you OK?’ a journalist asked me. I answered her honestly, not knowing that what I said would resonate with so many: new moms and older, and anyone who, in their own way, had been suffering in silence. My spontaneous response seemed to give people permission to speak their truth. But it wasn’t answering honestly that helped me the most, it was the question itself.
“‘Thanks for asking,’ I said. ‘Not many people have asked me if I’m okay.’ So, “sitting on a hospital bed, watching my husband’s heart break as he tried to hold up the broken pieces of mine, I realized that the only way to begin to heal is to first ask, ‘Are you okay? ‘”.
The newspaper describes Markle as “Duchess of Sussex, mother, feminist and advocate.” The couple welcomed their first child in May 2019, while they were still working members of the British royal family, a privilege they publicly renounced in early January 2020.
“Losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable pain, experienced by many but few speak of”
“Losing a child means carrying an almost unbearable pain, experienced by many but few speak of.” Relating her heartbreaking experience, the Duchess of Sussex has also spoken of other real cases that have touched her: “This year has brought many of us to our critical point. Loss and grief have affected us all in 2020, in tense and debilitating times. We have heard all the stories. “
Meghan also wanted to talk about Black Live Matter: “A young woman named Breonna Taylor goes to sleep, as she did every night before, but she does not live to see the morning because a police raid goes terribly wrong. George Floyd walks out of a convenience store, unaware that he will take his last breath under the weight of someone’s knee, and in his final moments, calls his mom. Peaceful protests turn violent. Health quickly turns into disease. In places where there was once a community, now there is division ”, he explained.
“We are adapting to a new normal in which faces are hidden by masks, but it forces us to look into each other’s eyes”
And from the division he goes on to talk about polarization. “In addition to all this, it seems that we no longer agree on what is true. We are not only fighting for our opinions on the facts; we are polarized on whether the fact is, in fact, a fact. We disagree on whether science is real. We disagree on whether an election has been won or lost. We disagree on the value of commitment ”, this, together with the social isolation necessary to fight this pandemic, she believes that we are“ more alone than ever ”.
For this Thanksgiving day, which is celebrated in the United States this Thursday, Meghan asks for a commitment to ask the family member, friend or neighbor, if “Is it okay?” even in the distance. “We are adapting to a new normal in which faces are hidden by masks, but it forces us to look into each other’s eyes, sometimes full of warmth, other times with tears. For the first time in a long time, as human beings, we are seeing each other for real. We are fine? We will be”Ends the duchess’s letter.