Threesome: how it works, advantages and disadvantages

In the 70s, Renato Zero sang about not taking the triangle into account. Decades later, more and more people seem intrigued by the idea of ​​creating troika.

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We all grew up with the same idea of ​​a monogamous relationship, but science says men are not born with monogamy in their DNA; In short, this aspect of partner exclusivity and fidelity seems to come from cultural heritage. For this reason polygamy

and non-monogamous relationships are becoming more common. In a survey conducted by Ashley Madison, a leading international platform for those seeking non-monogamous relationships, on how to manage this type of relationship in a healthy way, it was found that happiness in non-monogamy it is based on values ​​and foundations very similar to those of traditional relationships.

At the same time, including in light of recent statements by singer Benji Mascolo, who, a guest on the podcast OnePodcast Luca Casade admitted that he understands that one of the problems that led to the separation from his girlfriend Bella Thorne was precisely threesomes that ruined their intimacy as a couple, we need to clarify menage in troika, about why it always remains highly desirable and what are the ideal conditions so that it does not create problems between the parties.

For example, when and why threesome

To answer our questions Dr. Martha Giuliani Psychologist, psychotherapist, clinical sexologist and founding member of the Italian Society of Sexology and Psychology

Threesome: what do you think about this practice?

“Growing up in a social and cultural structure that presents monogamous relationships as the only possible form of relationship, feeling a certain interest in non-monogamous and polyamorous relationships can be initially confusing and destabilizing for the individual and couple. For this reason, as already established in the Ashley Madison investigation, it is important that they come some steps have been followed which ensure not only a strong personal awareness, but also a complete sharing of this choice in a relationship. In fact, discovering one’s inner motivations is the first step that allows a person to distinguish between a real desire to explore a new form of relationship and possible difficulties in resolving couple problems.