This is a problem, because this narrative contradicts even the factual reality, the one that is outside the social bubbles in which we live every day: we all have an unfortunate “spoiled” ex in our phone book or in our circle of friends. bitch”. Maybe now she lives in a car to pay alimony, or she is a classic “bottom” who allows herself to be tormented by the harpy on duty and has been living like this for many years, dependent and dissatisfied. “Toxic” relationships (that is, those that sooner or later everyone, both men and women, have to start with carrion) have always existed and affect the psyche, well-being of a woman who has become their victim, as much as a person who gets stuck in him. To force the idea to take the worst case as an example, acid is also thrown in the face of the men out of “sentimental” revenge. Only when it does, it’s less important, like no one cares. Like nobody cares, it doesn’t make any hits.
The Depp-Heard case opened the world’s eyes to a truth as important as it is inconvenient: there are victims of domestic violence as well as survivors. Only before the Depp case, they were not mentioned in the media. And I still don’t. But something is finally moving: in the Netflix series, a YouTuber credits an actor for proving that “violence has no gender.” And this is good. The bastards that women do to men boil down to little jokes, funny jokes, to which a man reacts with laughter or ends the question with a sweet “but he deserved it.” Not good. It is also considered important information that a man, if necessary, is physically unable to seek help from most violence centers. Those are the rules, it can disturb the traumatized people present – which is good on a conceptual level, nothing to say. In addition to having to overcome the stigma of “being beaten by a woman”, then even if he reported physical, psychological or verbal abuse, he would find himself in front of a lot of laughter from relatives and friends, often the police, even.
Amber Heard did not undermine the authority of the female gender and real victims of violence, she only reminded that the word of one person is not enough to ruin the life of another. This cannot and should not be sufficient under any circumstances. We will indeed begin to address the discourse of violence as a systemic issue when we talk about “persons”, “individuals”, anxious, violent and/or manipulative “subjects”. Regardless of their birth or intended gender. Previously, it was and will only be hashtags, social fights, fundamentalism, which, perhaps, will bring a few thousand more subscribers. Not sure solutions.